What motivates you?
There is really no answer when I rack my brain as to why I got something done today and why I couldn’t yesterday. What was so different today? I can even argue that today was a lot worse than usual days with period cramps, exhaustion from doing utterly nothing, and sleeping in until 2 p.m in the evening. If that’s too much information, I apologize. But it’s just me keeping it real.
I was watching a woman speak today in a video and she threw me off. After going to therapy for several years now, I’ve been learning how to put myself and how I feel first. It has been life changing, sky rocketing my self-esteem to a height sometimes I can’t even see. The woman scoffed at the word “feelings.” I can’t remember her exact words but she brought light to the fact of how they’re not really that important. They may have been before, but feelings and emotion have become a superficial level for us to achieve these days.
She spoke of how we choose our partner or friends because they make us “feel good” and we often drop any attempt to contact someone who doesn’t have the same likes and dislikes as ourselves. We choose to not go further to know someone, to do something, or continue the conversation the minute we feel friction.
It made me think and realize she’s right. Feelings, at least in our generation, were important. But important on a superficial level. In the past, perhaps a century ago this may have not been true because emotions were the least cared about. However, with life coaches, social media, and “feel-good” entertainment, our lives revolve around making ourselves feel good…being happy.
Perhaps we should take a step back and bring “feelings” down from the pedestal we’ve put it on. Maybe they are important but just not that important enough to dictate how I live every single day in my life. Because once in a while it’s necessary to power through and suck it up…even if you feel like utter crap.